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Shitcake: The Seven-Layer Cake of Our Lives

Shitcake: The Seven-Layer Cake of Our Lives
Rarely do life’s commitments stack up in nice, neat, separate layers that can each be dealt with in their own time. Despite our best efforts, commitments to family, to work, to community, and to self can feel like they crumble together, creating an overwhelming, unyielding mess. We’re pretty pleased with the metaphor we came up with to describe this struggle, even if it does bring some unsavory images to mind. In this episode, we talk about the attitude we’re adopting to stress less when digging into life’s messiness, and accept that despite outward appearances, everybody’s got a shitcake too.

Life can feel like a mess even on good days. The personal responsibilities of life that bring us joy often start to feel overwhelming when the demands for our time and energy surpass what is possible for us to give. For many people, this is where shame and self-judgment kick in, because dealing with every layer of life all at once shouldn’t be that hard, right?

Oh, if only it were that simple. Despite our best efforts, sometimes life is a shitshow, but the mess is easier to wade through when you accept it for what it is. This week, we talk about giving ourselves more grace when it comes to our expectations for the balancing of life’s layers.

Pimm's Cup

Pimm's Cup

Pimm's Cup
The Pimm’s Cup proves fruity drinks have a place in fall. This gin-based cocktail uses lemon juice and fruit garnishes to create a herbal, fruity drink that’s refreshing without being sweet. Plus, this simple yet high-quality recipe is easy to mix in a glass or scale up to a pitcher, making it an obvious standard for entertaining or drinks for one.


  • 2 oz Pimm’s No. 1
  • 1/2 oz lemon juice, freshly squeezed
  • Ginger ale, to top
  • Garnish: cucumber slice
  • Garnish: mint sprig
  • Garnish: strawberry
  • Garnish: lemon wheel (optional)
  • Garnish: orange wheel (optional)


  1. Add Pimm’s No. 1 and lemon juice into a highball glass over ice, then top with ginger ale and give it a quick stir to combine.
  2. Garnish with a cucumber slice, mint sprig, and skewered strawberry.
  3. Add optional lemon and orange wheels.

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